In my last post I introduced what my world has been like with my super fun two year old. Ha-Ha.
Thankfully the Holy Spirit has stuck with me and been the best support I could have asked for as a parent. Literally some days I would just ask Him, “Am I a bad mother? Am I doing it wrong? Am I missing something?” I was fully prepared for whatever He was going to say. After all, I knew I could trust what He was going to tell me because He only speaks the truth. I didn’t have to like it, but I knew if he corrected me He was only trying to help me.
But when He, the Spirit of truth, comes, He will guide you into all the truth; for He will not speak on His own initiative, but whatever He hears, He will speak…
Instead of correcting me or telling me all the ways I wasn’t making it, Holy Spirit would sweetly whisper, “You are a great mother.” We need to be encouraged by the Holy Spirit. He is the best encourager; He’s kind, honest, gentle and trustworthy.
One of the best things about the Holy Spirit is that He not only knows EVERYTHING about me and how I work/function/think/relate, He also knows EVERYTHING about how my children (and husband) work/function/think/relate. Because He knows us intimately. YAY. This is good news.
I’ll be honest, up until Uriah started acting out, I thought I was parenting well. I had worked in childcare of some form or another for close to 20 years. I started babysitting around 11 and I’ve always held a job that worked with children. I quickly began to question my techniques, ideas and thoughts regarding child rearing. Having the Holy Spirit tell me I was a great mother, just soothed my hurting, frustrated heart. It was a “You can do this, You’re doing things right, little Uriah is learning”. I love how you can get so much out of just a few words spoken by the Holy Spirit. If you are feeling down about your parenting abilities, just stop and ask Holy Spirit how He feels about you. You will get way more encouragement from Him than anyone else. He will immediately bring peace and comfort to your heart and let you know you’ve got this. When I know that I am doing right before God, I am instantly more at peace in my spirit and chances are, you will be too.
But the Helper (Comforter, Advocate, Intercessor—Counselor, Strengthener, Standby), the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name [in My place, to represent Me and act on My behalf], He will teach you all things. And He will help you remember everything that I have told you. AMP
I love how the amplified Bible dissects the word “Helper”. He is all that and more. He has the best thoughts, the best ideas, the best advice and all we have to do is stop and ask. It’s ok to be needy when it comes to God. It’s ok to ask Him again and again how He feels about you and how He feels about your circumstance, your child or spouse. He loves to encourage us.
The dictionary says Encourage means this: give support, confidence, or hope to (someone),help or stimulate (an activity, state, or view) to develop.
Sometimes we just need a hug and a word of encouragement, and sometimes encouragement looks like a word of wisdom; a little support and redirection. He’s good at knowing which one you need in your situation.
One day Uriah and I were playing in his room. I don’t remember what he did or said, but it wasn’t good. I remember feeling defeated and saying these word to the Holy Spirit.
“I feel like I just get on to him all day long. I hate this. I long for the days of being fun and silly again. I miss laughing with him. I just miss, HIM”.
He responded so kindly, “Then change what you’re focusing on. If you focus on everything he’s doing wrong all the time, that’s what your going to keep seeing. Focus on all the things he does right in the day and encourage him in those things.”
This time Holy Spirit gave me support by redirecting me. He’s good at giving you truth pills that are easy to swallow. I was going about the situation wrong, but I’d much rather Him support me and say, “hey, there’s a better way”, than to keep doing what I was doing and clearly getting an undesirable result.
Encouragement isn’t needed just for us parents, our children need it too. Sometimes they just need us to ignore their attitude and instead celebrate the good things that they are doing well. Let us be parents who lean in to the Holy Spirit. Are we always going to get it right? No, but our households will be a lot more fruitful if we can just take a few minutes and hear what God wants to share with us.
I hope this encourages you to begin asking Holy Spirit for encouragement over you and for your children. Ask Him for His wisdom, ask Him for ideas on how to love each of your children. He gave us little treasures to grow into followers of Christ, He trusts us with their hearts and that alone is a big encouragement.
Lord Jesus, I just thank you for each of these households reading this today. God I speak blessing and peace upon every heart. I thank you that they can hear your tender voice and follow it’s leading. I thank you Holy Spirit that you desire to encourage every parent and as a byproduct, each child. I thank you that you are so faithful even and especially when we become weary. We love you and bless you. In Jesus name, Amen.
You got this Mama!
If you have any stories or ways the Holy Spirit has encouraged you or given you nuggets of wisdom, I’d love to hear about it! You can comment below. And as always, feel free to like, share and check out Soaring Higher’s Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/caitotwell 🙂